Wife Puts Divorce Aside to Care For Cancer-Stricken Husband, Only for Entitled Son to Rebuke Her for Not ‘Grieving the Way She’s Supposed to’

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elina lee
Apr 17, 2023 12:00 PM EDT

Marriage is complicated, but divorce is even worse. And oh boy, do we have a complicated story for y'all today. Today we're talking about sacrifice, entitlement, and temper tantrums.

The highlight is on a poor woman who had spent years in an unhappy marriage. One day, she finally got the courage to ask her husband for a divorce but not before he was diagnosed with cancer first. She put all their differences aside and decided to stay with him during his last years on earth. She cared for him selflessly and gave her all to make sure his last years were as comfortable as possible. 

After a period of mourning, this strong woman decides to finally get out there and see the world for what it has to offer. And so she falls in love. See, most people would be jumping for joy for this beautiful soul, you know, after everything she's suffered through. But that's not what her entitled son had in mind. Read the rest for yourself and let us know your thoughts… who do you think is in the right? The mom? The kid? Or does everyone suck? 

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  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/Consistent-Truth-763 3 days ago AITA for cancelling on family vacation after my newly widowed mom decides to bring her new boyfriend?
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  • 02
    Font - My dad lost his 1.5 year battle with cancer one year ago (April 2022) at only 62 yrs old. He and my mom were married for 31 years. The few months before my dad got sick he and my mom were not on great terms and were contemplating divorce. However, through my dad's diagnosis and extreme ups and downs of treatment, they came together, squashed some of their issues and my mom was there to care for my dad every step of the way.
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    "However, through my dad's diagnosis and extreme ups and downs of treatment, they came together, squashed some of their issues and my mom was there to care for my dad every step of the way."

    Pay attention, y'all, this part is important. 

  • 03
    Font - I miss him every day. Me and my mom had always been pretty close but since my dad died I feel like I'm seeing and talking to her less and less these days and it makes me sad.
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  • 04
    Font - In August of 2022 (4 months after my Dad passed) my mom started seeing someone. She'd call him her "friend", slip in mentions of him in conversation but I personally wanted NOTHING to do with him. (Still don't.) I thought it was TOO SOON and told her so.
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  • 05
    Font - Everyone grieves differently and dating after losing a spouse is hard but conversations I've attempted with this guy and the chemistry between them has been super awkward IMO. I feel like she's disregarding any feelings or push-back that me, my sister and extended family have about this relationship. (large extended family, all very close-knit).
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  • 06
    Font - She has now starting bringing him to events and parties and there is an awkward vibe when he's around. Nobody wants to say it outloud. This past week, he showed up unexpectedly at our family Easter party (at my parents house). My mom knew he was coming and did not mention to anyone. Following tradition - we stood in prayer before we ate dinner and my uncle prayed out loud for those who we have lost and I felt SO awkward that my mom's boyfriend was there, holding hands with my family as we
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  • 07
    Font - We're now booking flights for a large family vacation in June (condo has already been booked for MONTHS) and my mom casually mentioned at Easter that she's bringing her boyfriend. I didn't hear this at the time and found out later from a cousin. I immediately called and told her my feelings about him going (I don't want him to) and she completely changed the subject and did not acknowledge what I told her at all.
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  • 08
    Font - Not to mention, we had decided to leave a day early to save money on flights, but now that her boyfriend is going, it will actually cost me MORE because we will no longer be splitting the costs that we originally planned since they will be doing things separately.
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  • 09
    Font - Money is not the problem though. It's now principle to me. Of the 20 family members that will be on this trip, not one person really wants him to be there, except her. He WILL be staying in the same condo and we are going to have to tip-toe around this awkward situation for an entire week while we should be relaxing and enjoying family time together. AITA for wanting to cancel on the family vacation and/or stick to my guns about not wanting her boyfriend to go even though she already book
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  • 10
    Font - carolingianmess 3 days ago 32 & 9 More Partassipant [2] YTA. Sounds like your mom put aside the reasons she wanted to divorce your dad to be there for him in his time of need and to honor their 31 years together. I'm sure you've read on Reddit how many men abandon their spouses when they get diagnosed with cancer. Your mom stayed until the end for him, even though the marriage was done.
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  • 11
    Font - She stayed with him through his cancer and helped him and now what, you're mad that she has a chance at happiness again? How many years of her life does she have to sacrifice before you decide it's ok for her to be happy? 1-2 years to nurse him, 1 year to grieve- that's already at least 3 years of sacrifice for an older woman who wanted to be free and have a better life. It doesn't matter what you think of her boyfriend. My own mom is dating someone I don't like but I'm not going to say s
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  • 12
    Font - ZealousidealHeron4 3 days ago ● Partassipant [1] Sounds like your mom put aside the reasons she wanted to divorce your dad to be there for him in his time of need and to honor their 31 years together. I think this is the crucial bit. She didn't move on from her beloved husband in a couple of months, her marriage ended like 2 years before she started seeing the new guy, just on amicable enough terms that she didn't want to leave him alone during his terminal illness. I get the family being
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  • 13
    Font - Negative_Rent 3 days ago · edited 3 days ago OP doesn't seem to realise who would've been on the hook for the extremely undesirable position as primary caretaker either, had their mother not chosen to stay and sacrifice. Sorry OP, but you're an ungrateful AH.
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